My husband and my therapist both agree...that I need to take myself out of the relationship equation, both emotionally and mentally, with Elizabeth. I need to set limitations for myself and create self-satisfying situations which create positive behaviors. "Deal with the hand you were dealt" and "accept the situation 'as is'". Don't expect reciprocity because it will never happen.
My gosh, that looks soooooooooooo good in print. Now, I have to put this into practice.
3 women in my life that have no level of reciprocity: my Mother, Pam (mil), Elizabeth (sil). I have to live with them and maintain some level of relationship with them for the rest of my life. These are not friendships that I can dissolve if I don't like them. ARGH!!!!!! The female-female family relationship is NOT EASY!!!!!!
On the simple side of life - I went to PetSmart to buy pet food, I went to Target to buy toiletries, I went to HEB to buy groceries, I picked up the drycleaning, I filled a prescription, I went to the school to drop off a few things, and I need to eat dinner right now. All very simple parts of life. But then again, none of these things require deep & meaningful relationships.
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